What is the value of a mom?
This is a question that begs an answer on a regular basis. It is not an entry level job with part-time hours. When a mom is home with a baby, pre-schoolers or teens, she often struggles through the mundane or frustration of the daily grind. The whirl of repetitive domestic duties blurs the pertinent and permeating preeminence of a mom’s impact on her children. While the significance of her influence seems hazy in the everyday dash, a heavenly perspective motivates moms to lighten their step, illuminate the successes of the past, and enjoy the simple gifts of today.
We all have a mother. Perhaps your mom was not the mom you wanted. Assuming you are an adult, mark the areas where your mom did a wonderful job. Where you have disappointments, adopt the attitude, “It is what it is.” Honor your mom for the things she did correctly. If there are serious problems, search out counseling as a third party greatly increases working forward successfully.
For those of you who have had an outstanding mom, celebrate her! Show her thoughtfulness and kindness every chance you are given. Call her on a regular basis. Discover what makes her feel loved. Spend time with her as often as possible. Tell others how she has impacted your life. I can certainly say that my mother is reflected in me daily.
Let me tell you about my mom.
In my earliest memories I can see my mom. My childhood was filled with adventures. I was a missionary kid. Some who grow up on the mission field focus on what they think they missed in the states. Since I arrived in a third world country when I was just six months, it was my normal. I remember standing by my mother in church. I would look up at her thinking she was always so pretty. I remember sitting on the patio doing homeschool and painting while she read out loud to us. I would hold her hand. I remember listening to my mother pray. I knew that she loved me. I have always been glad she was my mom. So much of who I am is because of who she was.
My mother taught me domestic skills, serving, teaching, homeschooling and spiritual living. When I was a senior in high school, she allowed me to run the house so that I would have confidence that I could do everything I needed once I was out on my own. This included laundry, grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning and general maintenance. Because she had really honed in on these skills individually, there were only minor bumps as I worked to combine them. From the time I was 12 years old, I taught beside her in Sunday school classes, VBS and five-day clubs in rural areas. My parents were missionaries before I was born, so I grew up seeing churches planted. Through my years as an adult, I continued to serve in these areas. Giving back multiplies the investment of my mother.
Because we lived out of the country, my mother faced the choice of homeschooling or boarding school as I approached Kindergarten. The decision was easy. Mom spent my early years reading to us and teaching us school alongside her missionary responsibilities. I remember those early years with fondness. Of all the different school experiences of our academic years, I loved homeschooling best. While homeschooling is not the best selection for every mom or every student, I am grateful my mom chose to homeschool us. We spent so much of my childhood together.
Lastly, but probably most importantly, my mother guided me spiritually. As a girl about five years old, I noticed that my mother would rise early and head to the patio to read her Bible and pray. This pattern peaked my curiosity. I decided to eavesdrop. I saw her in her chair reading and praying. As I moved closer, I could hear her talking to God as if he was truly real. Over the years, I heard her speak to God about specific needs. Then I recognized how he would answer. Her consistency and sincerity drew me to the Lord.
Being a mom is hard work every day. To be entrusted with the life, health and development of a tiny human growing into a mature, reflective and capable adult takes commitment and prayer. A mother’s investment insists on time and energy covered with prayer and hope. If you are a mom look beyond the daily busyness. Look to the future results of each of your everyday activities. Stop to plan. Dream goals. Implement.
Celebrate the gift that God has given you when he entrusted you with motherhood. What an honor! Perhaps I will relate my struggle to become a mother in a future blog. While we are immensely thankful for our five children, we grieved the loss of six babies as we started our family. Many days I doubted whether we would have a family. But that is a story for another day. Today, I am grateful to be a mom!
Enjoy your mothering!! Celebrate all your jobs! Appreciate the season!
What Does a Mom DO Everyday?
When your day seems long and unproductive, make a list of what you do all day. Here are a few things that might be on your list:
baby feeder, burper, diaper changer, bather, rocker
house cleaner – vacuum, mop, dust, bathrooms, sorter, organizer, delegator
mender of rips, hems, buttons
seamstress when needed
gifter for birthdays, Christmas, babies, weddings, anniversaries and more
dry cleaner dropper and collector
hair stylist for everyone
hair cut person
Sunday school teacher
birthday party giver (invitations, cake maker, party favors, game planner, thank you note person)
attend church, meetings, music practices, football games, soccer games, baseball practices, mom’s meetings
tamer of the paper monster (We all have these, don’t we? Do you have mail?)
cleaner -upper (Really, can no one else clean up gross messes?)
social calendar coordinator
routinely deep cleaning the garage, closets, ovens, refrigerator, bathrooms and such
seasonal clothes sorting and purchasing for all children
shoe accessor and shopper (a revolving activity here)
cutting 100 nails every Friday night (Do the math for five kiddos. I have graduated out of this job, but it was memorable.)
car washer (Isn’t the cleaning out process longer than the washing and vacuuming part?)
driving instructor (No one tells you how fun this job will be.)
locator of all missing or “unseen” items
doctor visit appointment maker and transporter
teacher of all academic subjects (includes selecting materials, purchasing them at the best price and planning the daily assignments, grading and correcting)
historian – photographer, journalist, video taker
lover of books
wasp and spider killer
referee (One of my least favorite jobs)
date for my husband to work related events (I like this one.)
or just a date for my hubby for no reason
lover of the Lord
child of God
worshipper of the God of the universe
A Standing Ovation
In conclusion, this blog affirms the immeasurable influence a mom possesses over her child. Any mom willing to dedicate the time and work required to motherhood deserves a standing ovation. Act with confidence! Feel appreciated today!
Know your worth!
Mom, you are valuable!
Join me for a conversation on this topic with Tim @ Embrace Your Everyday podcast.
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