As a mom of two beautiful daughters, the topic of beauty materializes often. This article is intended to encourage the validation of the beauty in your daughter and mine. It is imperative that we speak intentionally to the dehumanizing of our daughters by the culture. What are the messages they hear which define beauty?
Perhaps the most important quality to success is grit. Grit is a strong determination to finishing. Grit is an unyielding courage to face hard things, danger or impossible odds. Grit is the stamina to complete a longer than anticipated project, goal or task. Grit is knowing the end game matters. Grit is seeing the finish line and lunging forward no matter the obstacles. Check out these 5 characteristics of grittiness.
Friendship has always been super important to me. I believe that the relationships that we have with our family and friends are really our legacy. The experiences and life energy of friendship with family and others are really our most important treasures. When evaluating what is important in our lives, I don’t think many things are more meaningful than the investment we make in the people in our lives.
One of the easiest and most productive habits a mom or dad can cultivate for noticeable success is implementing car school. Whether you home school or choose to do school in a traditional way, you likely realize how difficult it is for your child to sit still to memorize, read or listen. Because I have succeeded wildly with this idea over my twenty plus years of parenting, I vouch for it enthusiastically!!
Keeping a clean home is hard work, but it is not impossible. Over the years as the oldest of four siblings and mother of five kids, I have collected some ideas about efficiency. In college I cleaned houses for my college money. One of the secrets is to keeping a clean home is to contemplate what needs to be done weekly and placing it on a workable schedule. Being consistent and thorough will really promote a happy result. In response to numerous requests on how I keep my home weekly, here are my best thoughts:
Your morning habits set the tone for the day ahead. Establishing a morning routine can propel you to a successful, productive day. Unfortunately, many people allow unhealthy habits to wreck their potential for the best outcome. Read about 10 harmful habits that could sidetrack you from having your best day.
From the time I was a little girl, I would pray out loud and talk to God. Then I would listen. I would listen all day everyday. It was like an ongoing conversation. It can be words or music. Because my mother and father loved God and spent time nurturing our spiritual formation, I had a firm confidence in God’s love for me and his desire to communicate with me.
Even after 35 years of marriage, I feel that Tim and I are still working to make this friendship, our marriage, even better. Although we have been together for a long time, we are still learning and growing on this journey. While we are not perfect, I do think we are happy. Here are five things that we know about marriage:
Whether you are just beginning your homeschool journey or are somewhere down the road, the cost of homeschooling is not a small concern. Discover new ways to eliminate costs in one or more of these ten ways to save money on homeschooling.
Being a mom is hard work every day. To be entrusted with the life, health takes commitment and prayer. A mother’s investment insists on time and energy covered with prayer and hope. If you are a mom look beyond the daily busyness. Affirm the immeasurable influence a mom possesses over her child. Any mom willing to dedicate the time and work required to motherhood deserves a standing ovation
When functioning as a domestic engineer for a family of seven, research, charts and new ideas are a must for success. Recently, a plan to combine the on-going need for cleaning and cooking, led me to this formula. Look for the FREE downloads like a list of daily morning contributions, kitchen duties and weekly jobs.
God has given you and me prayer as a means of supernatural power. Prayer is engaging in conversation with God not robotic rhetoric. Prayer is not words repeated out of obligation or tradition.If you are new to being a Christ follower or like me, you are eager to grow in your prayer life, here are seven simple ideas to a supernatural prayer life.
Long before dawn on Easter morning, about 100 believers gathered on the Coconut Island with eager hearts. Many new worshippers of Christ anticipated this day. Easter Sunrise service in Hawaii was an annual celebration with baptisms, a distinctly local breakfast and an Easter service.
This April Tim and I will be celebrating 35 years of marriage. While this number seems overwhelming, we strongly believe that we are better versions of ourselves in this season than we were in the beginning. This conversation invited Tim to share his favorite five secrets along with my five secrets. Marriage is hard work! As we enthusiastically embrace this new season, we don’t take it for granted. None of us are promised tomorrow. Forever is not a thing. Today is a gift.
Many believe that emotional intelligence (EI) is much more important to success in life than a high IQ. Intuitiveness is a natural gift for some, but it can also be learned and practiced. Check out the signs of EI along with the value of EI. Explore ways to use EI and key action steps to increase your EI.
Creating memories and legacy with our photos and videos is one of the most important, yet daunting tasks. Just beginning may seen so overwhelming that paralysis sets in permanently. Creating a photo book is not as hard as it seems. Whether you are creating a photo board book for your granddaughter like I did for Christmas or compiling a lifetime of pictures and stories for your parents like I have done recently, these 10 steps listed below still apply.
Neighboring is not a new concept. Some might call this hospitality, friendliness or welcoming. Neighboring really is not simple, but it is easy. It is an intentional mindset of togetherness, of congeniality, of amicability, of peacefulness and just warmth. It is really touching others physically, emotionally and spiritually.
Raising a child well requires consistent thinking, planning and intentional actualization. Ideation of purposeful values succeeds with consistency, diligence and established routines. Part of the practical application of Biblical literacy in the home involves teaching children to serve. Here are 10 easy ideas for teaching a child to serve.
Radical monogamy is a concept that is electrifying the world of relationship choices. When I first read about this idea, I smiled. I wondered if this was supposed to be funny. What could be radical about monogamy? Wasn’t this the same as another idea that started with “m” – marriage? So, I asked the obvious question, “What does radical monogamy mean? What is radical about monogamy?”
Choosing your best life means evaluating all parts of yourself on a regular basis so that you can make necessary changes and improvements. Desire to grow so you will use the briefness of this life wisely. Embrace simplicity. Embrace order. Embrace living.
One of the most difficult things in raising a child is training them to be an independent adult. Establish goals that will create autonomy as they mature. Invest time necessary to train your child to do all domestic jobs they will need to succeed as an adult. Your confidence that they can complete the job will eventually lead to a job completed correctly.
What do you want to remember about this Christmas? What do you want your family to remember about this Christmas? What do others feel when they have been with you? Is your presence life-giving? Are your words full of hope and encouragement? At the end of the day do you feel exhaustion mixed with gratitude? Are your days full, but empty? What do you want more of? Here are some thoughts for more presence that presents this Christmas.
Part of focusing on being present is contemplating what I LOVE about CHRISTmas! Don’t get sucked into the hurry. Slow down. Be present. Presence is the best present we can give to the person in front of me. Part of focusing on being present is contemplating what I LOVE about CHRISTmas! Once I identify what I love, I can DO more of that.
What could be more fun than intentionally planning time with family and friends. With the weather is turning cool and the need for some of your cozy clothes, use this inspiration of 10 ideas to create more space for for friendship.
Whether you are celebrating Thanksgiving with your family or not, this season invites room for an additional gathering fondly called Friendsgiving. While the name of this get-together might be relatively new, the idea of gathering with friends over a meal is thankfully not. To orchestrate your own Friendsgiving this year, just follow these seven simple steps.
Searching for a lifetime partner or teammate is extremely complicated. Since Tim and I have been married for over 30 years, we have some tips that might help in the search. The second most important decision in your life is choosing a spouse. Check out these 10 valuable considerations!
As a parent we have the opportunity to intentionally gather songs for our child’s childhood. Instead of just letting the music just happen, let me invite you to consider what music your child needs!! Share meaningful spiritual music that will last a lifetime!
The walls of our homes are clear indicators of the people who live inside. What do your walls say? What would someone who walked around your home without you know about you? What would they know about your impressions about God? If your walls could talk, what would we hear?
God is not going to ask me if I was successful in raising Godly children, but He will determine if I was faithful. This impactful opportunity was given to the parent of the child. As you plant seeds daily in your child’s spiritual formation, he will grow continually. Intentionality and consistency are the keys. Here are some easy ideas that anyone can do to grow a child spiritually.
As conscientious parents we eagerly work to give our kids the skills they need to be a success in life. One of the most important abilities we all desire for our child is the ability to communicate effectively. This requires thinking, speaking and writing prowess. With a few intentional moves, your child can be a phenomenal writer. A well trained child who is raised to write moves confidently toward his future. Here are few thoughts about bringing your student along from the beginning so that you RAISE a WRITER.
One of the most important jobs of parenting is teaching your child social skills. An often ignored skill is teaching a child how to interrupt politely. Whether you have been cut off mid-sentence or just completely shut down, you might remember a time that a child has abruptly interrupted the flow of conversation. Teach your child how to interrupt and master this social skill.
Savor the idea of generosity toward others. Recall times when you have been met with a warm welcome. Be that for those God places in your path. Conversation builds friendships. Camaraderie solidifies trust. Commonness reinforces strength.
Decision fatigue is a real sensation. Exhaustion in making decisions simply means that the more decisions we make, the more challenged we are making our next decision. For me, my decision making power is stronger earlier in the day. As humans we do have a finite limit to our daily willpower and our energy to evaluate choices and solidify a selection. Often the clutter in our environments is a direct result of decision fatigue
Have you ever calculated the number of hours you spend in your car? If you have children, you might be transporting them back and forth to school daily. When your vehicle is full of little people, the daily car time can lead to trash spilling out as the car doors open or fights over who will sit where. Whether you function as a couple, a single mom, a small family, a large family, a grandparent or just by yourself most of the time, the following ideas might create more pleasant travel time.
In simplest terms, to rest is to cease work or movement in order to relax, refresh oneself, or recover strength. To rest is to be restored, renewed, refreshed and in recovery. Practice these five ways to add more rest to your days. FREE “101 Ways to Experience More Rest.”
One of the most extraordinary things about my life has been knowing who I am in God’s eyes. This truth continues to reveal itself in the most unusually beautiful ways. It is the simple, yet life-transforming reality of who I am in God’s eyes that immediately equates worth, dignity and immense joy!!
If you have children, they need to be part of the daily and weekly responsibilities of cleaning and maintaining the space they live in with their family. Implement this method to expect quality work and inspect a finished job. It is only fair that everyone who lives in a space contributes to the maintenance of the living area. Keep in mind that if your child does not learn to clean, cook and organize when they are growing up, what makes you think that they will know what to do when they become an adult? Many young adults are completely unprepared for adulting. Don’t let your kids be unqualified for independent living. Create a cleaning routine with teamwork!
Bulk cooking simplifies the weekly responsibility of food preparation and clean up that is needed in all of our homes. Bulk cooking gives you power to be generous spontaneously. In addition to practical needs being recognized and resolved, you will be filled with the joy bursting from magnanimous action! Remember, people that are fed feel loved!!
What is blooming outside your window? What is blooming inside your home? Any parent who loves the Lord personally should consider how to communicate spiritually with their child. Are your child’s spiritual roots growing deep? Are they planted a river of Biblical truth? Are they blooming from seeds planted by an intentional parent or mentor?
Lean into the ideas of a one of our favorite singles, Paul Becker, as he shares how he lives intentionally as a single. Living each day with purpose offers contentment and preparation for a potential family. Engaging with community and pursuing life as a Christ-follower brings a lifestyle of thriving today!
Suicide in very young children continues to rise in alarming rates. From January through September 2021, children’s hospital cases related to self injury, suicide ideation and attempts in kids ages 5 to 17 rose 53 percent from the same period in 2020. What is happening and what are we doing wrong?
As a parent, you likely observe your child’s strengths and weaknesses in academics as well as other situations such as church and social opportunities. Our strongest qualities are often partnered with our greatest weaknesses. Establishing a pattern of intentional evaluation and planning creates a customized plan for developing the best in your child.
Many of my younger friends are either doing college, graduate school, military, bouncing into new careers and simply living on their own. Food continues to be a significant part of their budget. Some see their food costs rising monthly. Regardless of the motivation, many are giving their weekly food situation a hard look. I think you can eat better food, spend less money and time in the kitchen and just enjoy an overall more relaxed lifestyle by applying some of meal planning ideas.
While most dorm spaces are hardly large enough for two people to move around in simultaneously, local retailers suggest differently by the sizable “must buy” dorm lists. In truth, many moms….especially first time moms, react as if they are nesting again comparable to the days before they anticipated the arrival of their first baby. They overbuy and over plan. Check out this packing list which is divided into needs and wants.
It is easy to be a Christian on Sunday morning, but the reality of faith must have a practical everyday value that each day real life. Early Christians operated from the margins. Nothing is really different today. If we are truly modeling Christ-likeness, we are really in contrast to the culture. Our saltiness offers a pathway to eternal life with our Father God. The invitation is to live in kindness and community with those who are lost in this maze of one dimensional reality of the earthly world.
Home is God’s idea. Family is God’s idea. No matter the size of your home or family, living in your space necessitates daily and weekly cleaning. When routines are established, the rhythm of life creates more time for enjoying living in your home.
Laundry seems to be a burden to so many. Several moms have asked how our family does laundry. Perhaps the size of our family leads to the belief that we have a “system”. All I can relate is how laundry works into our schedule. Once a system is in place, prepare to be flexible. Don’t complicate a simple task. Follow these simple steps to simplify your weekly laundry.
In 2014, on the day after Christmas, we loaded up the van and drove to Destin, Florida to spend five days with 24 family members. It was a first for all of us. While that may sound overwhelming, it was a very memorable time that we were eager to duplicate. This first annual Vance Vacation was aimed at spending quality time together to build our family community. It worked. Check out how we accomplished such a large task. Don’t miss the helpful download full of “how-to” details.
Playing with mud as an adult has been insightful, even mind blowing. Who knew that taking up a new hobby of pottery would be a journey into spiritual and personal observation. Although we are just starting, here is what we have learned so far.
Do you have these 20 Social Skills?
Some people have work skills and academic knowledge, but not social skills to propel them to success. Some negative social behavior actually repels people. Some people lack self-awareness to identify what is repulsive to others. Some know, but don’t care. Some fail to weigh the cost of not caring about their interaction with others.
Sometimes I dream that I will have met my lifetime limit of cleaning responsibility. This, however, never turns out to be more than just a dream. In an effort to survive, I eagerly keep up seasonal cleaning. The routine of seasonal cleaning and purging creates more space where you live. It can save you money as you are more aware of what you need which keeps you from unnecessary purchases. Regularly, this activity helps me to locate lost or forgotten items. Inevitably, this habit means you keep less stuff.
This past summer I started taking yoga classes in an area of town that put me in contact with a corner which on most days had homeless women. Consistently, I noticed two young women at this corner. I gave them food and water bottles nearly every time I passed. I remembered the blessing bags that I used to make with my children. It seemed the right response to make some blessing bags for these women.
Just a few days ago, Tim and I were talking to our Uber driver who began to tell us how she was not really into religion. That was just the invitation that Tim needed to tell her that we were not really into religion either. Religiousity was not really our thing. However, we were enthusiastic Christ followers. Thank you to our readers and podcast listeners who have asked, “What is a Christ follower?” We are glad you asked. Let’s unpack this simple, but profound answer.
Over the years as a mom of five, I have spent $1000’s of groceries. Growing up in a family of six with $50 a week for groceries, I actively helped my mom stretch our food costs. These five easy ideas for cutting food costs are guaranteed to save time and money.
Do you want a strong vibrant marriage? Do you have hedges established protecting your marriage? Do you anticipate compromising situations and temptations with a plan? It is important for us to win at our own marriages. Plant hedges deep and wide and tall.
An earlier blog and podcast, “Seven Easy Ways to Grow Your Children Spiritually” unpacked the basics of spiritual training in the home. One of the most helpful ways to explore what is best for our children is to grasp the secrets of what is age appropriate. If we understand the learning capabilities of our children […]
As I step into a new season, I wanted to review some of the things that I have learned. This past year has been so full of learning. Perhaps you feel the same way. As I re-organize my schedule for the new season, I am reminded to pause and hold fast to the things that […]
Biblical Literacy @ Home7 Easy Ways to Grow Your Children Spiritually When I was given a child to raise, I knew that it was my responsibility to grow them up physically, academically, socially, relationally as well as spiritually. I began to lean into my experience of growing up. I did not assume that I could […]
The news spread quickly as we told everyone we knew. However, our excitement screeched to a halt the evening that we began to lose them. Darkness settled in. Sadness engulfed us. Dreams died hard.
Thanks giving leads to experiencing the nearness of JOY in our everyday living. It is the not-so-secret secret of boundless enjoyment and satisfaction. The season of Thanksgiving offers a reminder to practice the habits that inhabit our natural responses.
Transform the mood of a conversation or a gathering by sharing your gratitude and asking others to do the same. The ardor of joy leads to irresistible cheerfulness.
Do you realize that a person thinks thirty thousand thoughts per day? This breaks down into about thirty-one thoughts per minute. Which of these thoughts will captivate me? How will I respond to these thoughts? Will any of these thoughts be repetitive thoughts? How can I take an unhealthy thought captive? Can I take a thought captive? Can I be free from living a chaotic thought life? Yes, I believe I most definitely have the power to grab hold of my train of thought and direct it or redirect it. Neuroplasticity promises that the train running on the tracks in my head can be switched onto another track.
Routines create high achievers. There, I said it!! This content, properly applied, increases your productivity and success. Creating a nighttime routine customized to your needs helps you unwind from the day and prepare for tomorrow. Set yourself up for success!